I’m not really the kind of person who works out.
But I think I want to try to be. (how noncommittal is that statement?)
This month as we get ready for Onward and Upward 2013 we’ll be talking a lot about finding and living our GREAT WORK. But to even start doing that we have to get past those things that are holding us back.
What are self-limiting beliefs
Any time you tell yourself you CAN’T do something? Any time you say no to a project or an opportunity because you’re afraid you can’t pull it off?
A self-limiting belief is something you think is true about yourself that keeps you from doing something. Examples: I’m not really the kind of person that does that. I’m not smart enough to pull that off. I’ll never be able to find that. I’m not a real writer/photographer/athlete/fill-in-the-blank.
Please notice that these beliefs about ourselves are not necessarily true to any one else. I may think that I’m not smart enough to be able to do this thing – while everyone who is closest to me believes I am. Other examples of self limiting beliefs
How to overcome self limiting beliefs
Learning how to overcome self limiting beliefs is kind of the first step. You want to first, recognize that these are beliefs – not facts. They are strictly you opinion and the ARE changeable.
Next: Work on breaking down that belief by replacing it with a new one. Beliefs are formed through repeated thoughts that, for one reason or another, you decided are true. So instead replace the self limiting beliefs with a positive thought you think or write or tell yourself over and over again. Change your story.
You try. Fill in the blank. Say it out loud. Write it on your mirror or in your planner or add it to your nightly prayers:
I’m the kind of person who _____
Lastly, practice practice practice. Yep, PRACTICE telling yourself something you don’t yet think is true. Practice starting or being brave or telling people that you are a photographer. The first time is petrifying, the third time is slightly less so, and eventually the 700-th time you do that thing that is against your long-held self limiting belief you will even be be believing it. “If you want to do something different, you have to adopt the identity of the kind of person who would do that thing.”
The second module in the Onward and Upward online workshop is called You Can Change Your Life – and it is exactly like this post. Workshop attendees will spend the whole week thinking about what changes they want to make in their life and learning to believe that they can make those changes.
I would love if you would join us and the ladies already signed up!