How to stay positive when it seems impossible

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As I write this on my husband’s computer because my hard drive has finally died, I have a stress headache, about 15 errands to run, things to buy that I really don’t want to spend money on and about 15 too-few hours in the day to get everything done.

At this very moment, it seems *impossible* to stay positive about what I’ve got to deal with ….

This is what I’ll be doing this week to stay positive when I feel like it seems impossible.

Let go of worry

I know this is much easier to say than to practice, but try to remind yourself of the futility of worrying when you feel this kind of stress coming up. If you are in a tight financial spot, worrying about your lack of money will not make any more appear.

Luckily, I’m not much of a worrier. I do pretty well with letting go of expectations. It’s near impossible to stay positive if you are always either disappointed in what you expect to be happening or concerned about not doing enough.

Worrying about what might or might not happen isn’t going to help anything. If you have any control over the situation, do that thing. Do your best. If you don’t have any control over the situation, worrying about it is simply counterproductive.

When you feel worry creeping up, take a second to think about what practical steps you can do about it. And do those.

Do a couple little things to make your heart happy

I treated myself to ice cream over the weekend. I know it’s not good for me, but as a once-in-a-while treat it absolutely makes my heart happy. I have a wedding to look forward to this weekend. And this past weekend I also indulged in a little comfort-reading, lounging around re-reading Harry Potter books.

Allow yourself time to recharge. Give yourself permission to do something just for you. Don’t forget to just take care of yourself. You can’t stay positive if you are feeling drained.

Want some more ideas for small, affordable, totally do-able things to bring a little joy to your life? Check out Self Love, my downloadable ebook.

Stay grateful

I’m a planner. I’m ambitious and I have 14 million to-do lists and I am always looking forward.

Because of this, I have to remind myself to stay present in the moment and stay grateful for and content with what I do have. I may dislike my day job, but I am grateful it allows me health care and extra money every month. I may not have enough time to do everything I want to do, but I am grateful for the experiences I have been able to have.

I hope your week is going better than mine. If not …. hopefully some of these tips will help you stay positive.

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  • Megan Anderson October 29, 2012 at 6:19 pm edit

    Ah! That sucks so much about your hard drive. I hope everything turns around soon.

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  • Kam November 4, 2012 at 9:42 pm edit

    I’ve read this post three times now. I love posts where the writer is able to bring in a personal story in the intro, it’s just…so much more believable and easier for me to accept the advice that way :)

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  • Sian May 23, 2013 at 12:15 am edit

    I found this post through the list of resources you sent before the build e-course. This was posted a long time ago and I’m sure you’ve managed to do all of the things that you hoped to do when you wrote this post, and if you haven’t got round to it, I’m sure you have probably forgotten about what it was in the first place! We all feel like this at some point and I’m sure, most of the time it is temporary. A good mixture of chocolate and yoga get me through times like these, remembering to breathe deeply is also a good trick. Thanks for sharing.
    Sian

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